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Safety Planning for Survivors of Domestic Violence

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Safety Planning for Survivors of Domestic Violence

A safety plan is a personalized plan that can help you think through ways to stay safe during an abusive relationship, while preparing to leave, or after leaving. There is no one right way to do it, and every survivor’s situation is different. This page is meant to provide general information and ideas that you can consider and adapt based on your own needs and circumstances. You may choose to use some of these suggestions, all of them, or none at all. 

If you are able, it may also be helpful to create a safety plan with the support of a trusted advocate, attorney, or someone you feel comfortable with. Safety planning is not a substitute for legal advice or individualized support.  

If you need immediate help, call 911. If you need support, you can also contact the Illinois Domestic Violence Hotline at 877-863-6338 or the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988.  

What Is a Safety Plan? 

A safety plan is a set of steps you can choose to take to increase your safety and think through options and prepare for different situations at your own pace. It can include ideas for staying safer during an incident, leaving safely, protecting your privacy, gathering important documents, and identifying trusted people or places you can turn to for help.  

Safety During a Violent Incident 

You may not always be able to avoid violent incidents. If you sense that a situation may become violent, it may help to think ahead about the safest ways to respond. 

You may want to consider: 

  • How to leave quickly if you need to (Doors, Windows, Fire Escapes, etc.) 
  • Where you could go in an emergency, such as a public place, police station, fire station, or trusted friend or family member’s home 
  • Keeping your wallet, phone, keys, or other essentials in a place you can access quickly 
  • Creating a code word with children, family, or friends so they know when to call for help 
  • Moving to a lower-risk area if an argument begins, away from rooms with weapons or rooms without an exit 
  • Telling my neighbors about past violence and request they contact the police if they hear suspicious noises coming from my house.  

Every situation is different. Sometimes the safest choice in the moment is doing what you need to do to survive.  

Safety When Preparing to Leave 

Leaving can be one of the most dangerous times in an abusive relationship. Leaving home must be done with a careful plan. Preparing in advance, when possible, may help reduce risk. 

You may want to think about: 

  • Setting aside money, extra keys, clothes, or copies of important documents with someone you know and trust 
  • Opening a bank account in your own name, if safe to do so 
  • Making a plan for pets 
  • Packing an emergency bag for yourself and your children 
  • Identifying safe exits from your home 
  • Deciding where you would go and who you would call if you needed to leave quickly 

You do not have to do everything at once. Even small steps can matter.  

Safety at Home 

If you are staying in your home or returning to it, there may be ways to increase safety over time. 

Possible steps include: 

  • Changing locks as soon as possible 
  • Keeping doors and windows locked 
  • Keeping your phone charged and nearby 
  • Adding security measures such as camera doorbells, lights, extra locks, or other devices 
  • Teaching children what to do if the abusive person shows up or tries to contact or take them 
  • Exploring Address Confidentiality programs that help protect your address or location 

Not every option will fit every situation. Choose the steps that feel realistic and safe for you.  

Safety With an Order of Protection 

If you have an Order of Protection, keeping a copy with you at all times is helpful. You may also want to share copies with places or people who may need it, such as: 

  • Local police departments 
  • Your children’s school 
  • Childcare providers 
  • Trusted neighbors, family members, or friends 
  • Your workplace, if appropriate 

If the abusive person violates the order, call the police right away. If firearms are involved, it is important to report as well.  

Technology Safety 

Technology can be used to monitor, track, or control survivors. Small digital safety steps may help protect your privacy. 

You may want to consider: 

  • Changing passwords on your phone, email, banking, and other accounts 
  • Creating new accounts if accounts were previously shared (iCloud, email, bank accounts, etc.) 
  • Signing out of devices or accounts the other person may still access 
  • Turning off or limiting location settings, app permissions, and Bluetooth settings 
  • Making social media and messaging accounts private 
  • Checking for tracking devices in your car, bag, or belongings 
  • Getting a new phone or computer if you believe yours is being monitored 
  • Checking for hidden cameras in your home 

Technology safety can be complicated. Trust your instincts and seek support if something feels off.  

Safety in Public and at Work 

You may decide to tell certain trusted people about your situation so they can help support your safety. Taking steps to plan for your safety in public or at work can help you feel more confident and prepared as you go about your daily routine. 

This might include: 

  • Taking different routes to work, school, stores, or other regular places 
  • Telling a supervisor, security staff member, or trusted co-worker 
  • Asking someone at work to help screen calls or visitors 
  • Changing routines when possible 
  • Identifying safe public places you can go if you do not feel safe returning home 

Think carefully about who feels supportive, trustworthy, and helpful.  

Emotional Wellbeing Matters Too 

Abuse affects more than physical safety. It can also affect emotional wellbeing, energy, confidence, and mental health. 

You may find support in: 

  • Calling a trusted friend, family member, counselor, or advocate 
  • Attending workshops or support groups 
  • Repeating a mantra, affirmation, or prayer that helps you feel grounded 
  • Building routines or coping practices that help you feel calm 
  • Taking steps that help you feel stronger and more supported 

Healing is not one-size-fits-all. You deserve support that meets your needs.  

Important Items to Take If You Leave 

If you have time to prepare, it may help to gather important items in advance or keep copies with someone you trust. 

These may include: 

  • Identification 
  • Birth certificates 
  • Social Security cards 
  • Passports 
  • Driver’s license and registration 
  • Money, checkbook, debit cards, or credit cards 
  • Keys 
  • Medications 
  • Phone and charger 
  • School and vaccination records 
  • Immigration or work documents 
  • A copy of an Order of Protection 
  • Lease, rental agreement, or deed 
  • Insurance papers 
  • Medical records 
  • Divorce papers 
  • Sentimental items 
  • Children’s favorite toys or blankets 

Not everyone can safely gather these items ahead of time. Do what is possible and safest for you.  

Important Phone Numbers to Keep Nearby 

Consider writing down important phone numbers in case you lose access to your phone. 

Helpful numbers may include: 

  • 911 
  • Local police or sheriff 
  • Prosecutor’s office 
  • Your attorney 
  • Your children’s school 
  • Your therapist or counselor 
  • Trusted friends or family members 
  • Illinois Domestic Violence Hotline: 877-863-6338 
  • Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 988 

You may want to keep these numbers in more than one place.  

Need Legal Help or Support? 

The plan above does not take the place of speaking with an attorney and creating a personalized safety plan. North Suburban Legal Aid Clinic provides free, confidential legal aid to survivors of domestic violence in Lake County and north suburban Cook County. Our Domestic Violence Law Practice also helps connect survivors with social services and additional support. 

If you need assistance, contact us at info@nslegalaid.org or call 847-737-4042 to schedule a consultation. 

NSLAC also provides free legal aid in Immigration and Housing for qualifying residents. 

Voting option in Illinois

Voting Options for Domestic Violence Survivors in Illinois

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Voting is a fundamental right, but for those experiencing stalking or abuse, the process can present unique risks and challenges. The following information is designed to help domestic violence survivors in Illinois, as well as their loved ones, navigate the voting process safely and confidently while protecting their privacy. Thank you to NoMore for providing NSLAC and the community with this information to protect survivors and their voices. Find more information about safe voting options by state HERE.

North Suburban Legal Aid Clinic (NSLAC) provides free legal aid to survivors of domestic violence living in Lake County and north suburban Cook County. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please call (847) 737-4042 or email info@nslegalaid.org

What is the Address Confidentiality Program (ACP):

The Address Confidentiality Program (ACP) allows survivors to withhold their addresses from all public records, including voter registration lists. Participants of this program are given a free substitute mailing address, that can be used in place of their physical address on public documents. This helps protect survivors from being located by current or former abusers through publicly available voter registration records.

Does Illinois Offer the Address Confidentiality Program (ACP)? 

Yes, if you are a victim of domestic violence, sexual assault, human trafficking, or stalking, you may be eligible and can apply by returning a completed application to the Attorney General's Office. You can access the ACP online application and learn more HERE.

What is the Confidential Registration?

Confidential registration is commonly linked with ACPs but can also be a separate option in some states, offering survivors an alternative or additional method to protect their personal information when voting.

Does Illinois Offer Confidential Registration?

No, Illinois does not offer Confidential Registration. Instead, you can refer to the Illinois Address Confidentiality Program (ACP) for protecting personal information.

What is Early Voting? 

Early voting allows people to cast their vote in person before Election Day. This option can be helpful for survivors who want to avoid large crowds or whose whereabouts may be monitored by their abuser. Early voting allows survivors to vote with flexibility, at a time that is safest for them.

Does Illinois Offer Early Voting? 

Yes, in-person early voting is available to everyone from September 26, 2024, to November 4, 2024. You can find an early voting location near you HERE.

What is Same-Day Registration? 

Same-day registration allows individuals to register and vote on the same day, including on Election Day. This option offers flexibility for survivors who may have missed the registration deadline or prefer to register in person to avoid leaving a digital or paper trail at home.

Does Illinois Offer Same-Day Registration?

Yes, you can register and vote on the same day during early voting or on Election Day.

Register to vote in advance HERE or learn more about same-day registration options HERE.

What is Vote by Mail?

Voting by Mail, also referred to as no-excuse absentee voting, allows voters to receive and return their ballots by mail, removing the need to go to a polling place in person. It offers a secure alternative for survivors who may not be able to visit physical voting locations or feel safer voting from home.

Can I Vote by Mail in Illinois? 

Yes, you can vote by mail if you request your ballot by October 31, 2024. You can request your ballot HERE.

Mail-in ballots must be postmarked by November 5, 2024.

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How to help someone in an abusive relationship?

How to Help Someone Who Could Be in an Abusive Relationship?

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How to Help Someone Who Could Be in an Abusive Relationship?

Recognizing the signs of domestic violence can be overwhelming, and knowing how to help someone in an abusive relationship may be difficult. However, your support is crucial to their safety and security. The information below offers guidance on how to communicate with compassion, provide emotional support, and connect survivors to resources that can help them break free from the cycle of abuse. Whether you’re a friend, family member, or concerned neighbor, this guide will help you approach these difficult situations with empathy and care.  

If someone you know is in an abusive relationship, North Suburban Legal Aid Clinic (NSLAC) offers free domestic violence legal assistance to survivors living in Lake County and north suburban Cook County.  

How to Know if Someone is Experiencing Domestic Violence:  

Domestic violence can take many forms, and the signs of abuse are not always obvious. Abuse can be physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, financial, or digital. Identifying the signs can help you support someone who might be in danger. Here are some key indicators to keep in mind: 

Visible and Hidden Injuries: 

Someone facing physical violence may have visible signs like bruises, cuts, or broken bones, but not all injuries are easy to spot. Abusers often target areas that are easily covered by clothing. Victims might wear heavy makeup, sunglasses, or long sleeves, even in warm weather, to hide these signs. They might also have unexplained injuries they dismiss or feel uncomfortable explaining. 

Behavioral Changes:

Those experiencing domestic violence may show noticeable changes in their behavior or personality. They might become unusually quiet, anxious, or withdrawn, isolating themselves from friends and family. Victims often lose interest in hobbies or activities they once enjoyed and may exhibit signs of depression or mood swings. 

Diminished Self-Esteem:

People in abusive relationships might display a lack of confidence, avoid eye contact, or be overly apologetic for things that seem trivial. They may speak in a way that suggests fear of making mistakes or causing conflict. Frequent self-blame or putting themselves down can also be red flags. 

Signs of Control:

An abusive partner may monitor their victim's movements, often through excessive texting or calling to check on their whereabouts or who they're with. Victims might have limited access to personal resources like a car, job, or money and may seem nervous about going against their partner's wishes. You might notice them constantly seeking permission or expressing fear of their partner's reaction. 

The signs of domestic violence are extensive. Learn more about the different forms of domestic violence and their signs HERE 

How Can I Help Someone Experiencing Abuse?  

If you’re unsure how to help someone in an abusive relationship, here are a few ways you can provide support: 

Show Empathy and Understanding: 

When speaking with a survivor, choose a safe, private setting and listen with empathy and without judgment. Understand that opening up about abuse is challenging, so allow them to share their story at their own pace. Reassure them that you believe them, that the abuse is never their fault or acceptable, and remind them that they are not alone. Support is always available. 

Listen Without Judgment and Respect Their Choices: 

Survivors may fear being judged or misunderstood when discussing their experiences. Ask what they would like to do next and respect their choices, even if they decide to stay in the relationship. Avoid criticism or making them feel guilty, as this could cause them to withdraw further from their support network. Instead, offer your support by asking how you can help and encourage them to make their own decisions. 

Help Them to Seek Professional Help: 

Guide them toward helpful resources like hotlines, counseling services, support groups, or legal aid. Offer to accompany them to these appointments if they wish, providing moral support and showing that they do not have to face this situation alone. If you witness the abuse, call 911 immediately. North Suburban Legal Aid Clinic (NSLAC) provides free domestic violence legal aid. Our domestic violence attorneys provide free representation and assistance in cases involving safety for survivors and their children.  

Find domestic violence resources in Lake County HERE 

Find domestic violence resources in northeastern Cook County HERE 

Find domestic violence resources in northwestern Cook County HERE 

Assist in Creating a Safety Plan: 

A safety plan is a personalized, practical guide designed to help someone stay safe during an abusive situation while preparing to leave, or after they've left. You can support them in creating this plan by helping them identify a safe place to go, keeping emergency contacts accessible, and setting aside essential items like money and important documents. A clear plan can offer a sense of control and readiness in case they need to leave a relationship quickly.  

How does North Suburban Legal Aid Clinic Support Survivors of Domestic Violence? 

The Domestic Violence Law Practice at North Suburban Legal Aid Clinic (NSLAC) provides free domestic violence legal aid to at-risk survivors living in north suburban Cook County and Lake County. Our pro bono attorneys and staff provide legal support and assistance with orders of protection (for people with a pre-existing relationship), civil no-contact orders (typically used in cases of sexual assault), or stalking no-contact orders (where there might not be a romantic or family relationship, but someone is still fearing for their safety and emotional well-being).  Learn more about our free domestic violence legal aid services HERE. NSLAC also provides free immigration legal aid and housing legal aid.  

If you or someone you know needs free domestic violence legal aid, please contact NSLAC at 847-737-4042 or email info@nslegalaid.org. If this is an emergency, please call 911 immediately.    

Together We Break the Cycle:  

It is important to keep the conversation about domestic violence going and raise awareness about the importance of healthy relationships. Please share this blog with your family and friends to help others recognize the signs of an unhealthy relationship and the support they can provide. By spreading awareness, we can shed light on this widespread issue affecting many in our communities. Together, we can break the silence and work towards ending the cycle of abuse. 

Sources:  

  1. Supporting Someone Who Keeps Returning to an Abusive Relationship - The National Domestic Violence Hotline 
  2. Signs of Domestic Abuse - Dudley Safe and Sound 
  3. Advice if You’re Worried About Someone - Rochdale Borough Council 
  4. Talking About Relationship Abuse - The National Domestic Violence Hotline 
  5. Signs Someone Is Being Abused - Verywell Mind 
Violencia Domestica: mi pareja rompe cosas cuando se enoja

¿Cuáles son algunos de los diferentes tipos de violencia doméstica? 

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¿Cuáles son algunos de los diferentes tipos de violencia doméstica? 

La violencia doméstica, también conocida como violencia de pareja íntima o abuso en relaciones, es cualquier comportamiento utilizado para ganar poder y control sobre una persona, ya sea un esposo/a, pareja o un miembro de la familia. La violencia doméstica no siempre es física; también puede ser verbal, sexual, financiera, digital o mediante acoso. Con más de 12 millones de personas afectadas anualmente, la violencia doméstica sigue siendo una epidemia generalizada a nivel nacional. A continuación, explore información detallada sobre los diferentes tipos de violencia doméstica y sus diversos signos. La Clinica de Ayuda Legal de North Suburban proporciona servicios legales gratuitos a las personas sobrevivientes de violencia doméstica que residen en el norte del condado de Cook y el condado de Lake. 

¿Por qué ocurre la violencia doméstica? 

La violencia doméstica siempre es intencional y está motivada por el deseo del agresor de obtener poder y control. Es un concepto erróneo común pensar que el abuso surge de un pobre manejo de la ira o del consumo de sustancias por parte del agresor. 

¿Quién puede ser víctima de la violencia doméstica? 

La violencia doméstica puede afectar a cualquier persona, independientemente del género, edad, raza, situación socioeconómica, nivel educativo o estatus migratorio. 

¿Cuáles son los tipos de abuso presentes en la violencia doméstica? 

El abuso puede manifestarse de muchas maneras y no siempre es físico. También puede ser emocional, verbal, sexual, financiero, digital o mediante acoso. No es raro que múltiples formas de abuso estén presentes al mismo tiempo. Conozca más sobre los diferentes tipos de abuso a continuación. 

¿Por qué las víctimas permanecen en relaciones abusivas? 

Para una víctima, identificar que está en una relación abusiva y decidir irse requiere valentía. En casos de abuso, irse es el momento más peligroso para una victima, ya que su agresor no tiene nada que perder. En promedio, las victimas dejan una relación abusiva de 6 a 8 veces antes de decidirse a irse definitivamente. Las victimas ganan más confianza y recursos cada vez que se van. 

Las razones por las que una victima puede optar por no irse pueden ser complejas. A continuación se presenta una lista con algunas de las razones por las que dejar una relación abusiva puede ser tan difícil: 

  • Las victimas aman a su agresor. 
  • Dependencia económica. 
  • Falta de una red de apoyo. 
  • Estigma de un matrimonio fallido. 
  • Religión. 
  • Miedo a privar a sus hijos de un padre o madre. 
  • Querer creer en las promesas del agresor de que el abuso cesará. 
  • Miedo a más violencia si se van. 
  • Miedo de no ser creídas. 

Asistencia gratuita en casos de violencia doméstica 

Si usted o alguien que conoce necesita asistencia legal gratuita en casos de violencia doméstica, por favor contacte a NSLAC al 847-737-4042 o envíe un correo electrónico a info@nslegalaid.org. Si se trata de una emergencia, llame al 911 de inmediato. 

La Clínica de Asistencia Legal de Norte Suburban (NSLAC) proporciona asistencia legal gratuita a las personas sobrevivientes de violencia doméstica que residen en el norte del condado de Cook y el condado de Lake, Illinois. Los abogados de violencia doméstica de NSLAC brindan apoyo legal y asistencia con órdenes de protección (para personas con una relación preexistente), órdenes de no contacto civil (típicamente utilizadas en casos de agresión sexual) u órdenes de no contacto por acoso (cuando no existe una relación romántica o familiar, pero alguien sigue temiendo por su seguridad y bienestar emocional). Conozca más sobre nuestros servicios de asistencia legal en casos de violencia doméstica AQUÍ. 

Juntos Rompemos el Ciclo: 

Es importante que continuemos la conversación sobre la violencia doméstica y las relaciones saludables. Por favor, comparta este blog con sus amigos, familiares y en las redes sociales. A través de la concienciación colectiva, podemos seguir arrojando luz sobre este problema prevalente que afecta a quienes nos rodean. Juntos, podemos romper el silencio y poner fin al ciclo de abuso. 

Recursos adicionales: 

  • Línea Nacional de Violencia Doméstica: Encuentre información sobre los diferentes tipos de abuso, así como identificar señales de advertencia. Las líneas están abiertas las 24 horas, los 7 días de la semana. 
  • Love is Respect: Encuentre recursos sobre planificación de seguridad, cómo hablar con alguien que cree que está siendo abusado, y puede obtener apoyo individual de expertos sobre qué hacer. Las líneas están abiertas las 24 horas, los 7 días de la semana. 
  • Clínica de Ayuda Legal de North Suburban: Encuentre recursos adicionales, líneas de ayuda y planes de seguridad. 

Sources:  

  • Tipos de abuso: Obtén más información sobre los diferentes tipos de abuso en el sitio web de Love Is Respect (2020).
    Comprender el abuso en relaciones: Descubre más sobre cómo entender el abuso en las relaciones en el sitio web de la Línea Nacional de Violencia Doméstica (2021).

Digital abuse and cyberstalking

What is Cyberstalking and How to Combat it?

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What is Cyberstalking and How to Combat it?  

Cyberstalking is a form of digital abuse where individuals use the internet, social media, email, and other electronic communication tools to stalk, harass, or intimidate another person. It typically involves repeated and unwanted attention, monitoring, or threats directed at a specific person, causing them to fear for their safety. This behavior can include monitoring social media activity, sending threatening messages, hacking into personal accounts, and using GPS tracking. Thank you to Steele Fortress for providing us with these important digital tips to educate the digital community and raise awareness on the digital measures survivors can take to protect themselves against cyberstalking and abuse. North Suburban Legal Aid Clinic’s domestic violence attorneys provide free domestic violence legal aid to survivors of domestic violence living in north suburban Cook County and Lake County.  Learn more about cyberstalking below. 

How Can I Seek Legal Help if Someone is Cyberstalking Me?  

If you are experiencing cyberstalking, you are not alone, legal help is available. North Suburban Legal Aid Clinic (NSLAC) provides free legal assistance to survivors of domestic violence, including legal support and assistance with orders of protection (for people with a pre-existing relationship), civil no-contact orders (typically used in cases of sexual assault) or stalking no-contact orders (where there might not be a romantic or family relationship, but someone is still fearing for their safety and emotional well-being).  

If you or someone you know needs free domestic violence legal aid, please contact NSLAC at 847-737-4042 or email info@nslegalaid.org. If this is an emergency, please call 911 immediately.    

Together We Can Break the Cycle:    

The North Suburban Legal Aid Clinic is here to support survivors with free legal aid services, empowering them to take control of their digital safety and well-being. It is important that we continue the conversation of what is and isn’t a healthy relationship. Cyberstalking is a pervasive and harmful form of digital abuse that can have serious consequences for victims. By understanding the tactics used by abusers and implementing strong digital security measures, individuals can better protect themselves.  

We encourage you to share the information found in this blog and help raise awareness about the dangers of digital abuse. Through our collective commitment, we can build a future where every individual can live free from fear of their safety.  

¿Cuáles son las señales de violencia doméstica? Asistencia legal gratuita para violencia doméstica en español. 

¿Cuáles son las señales de violencia doméstica?

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¿Cuáles son las señales de violencia doméstica?

Identificar las señales de la violencia doméstica es el primer paso para reconocer el abuso y recibir la ayuda necesaria. El abuso no siempre es físico. También puede ser verbal, emocional, sexual, financiero y digital. Con más de 12 millones de personas afectadas anualmente, la violencia doméstica sigue siendo una epidemia generalizada a nivel nacional. A continuación, explore información detallada sobre las señales de violencia doméstica. La Clinica Legal de North Suburban ofrece servicios legales gratuitos a sobrevivientes de violencia doméstica que viven en el Condado de Cook y en el Condado de Lake.

¿Qué es la violencia doméstica? 

La violencia doméstica no es solo violencia física. La violencia doméstica es cualquier comportamiento físico, verbal, emocional, sexual, financiero o digital que se utiliza con el propósito de obtener poder y control sobre una persona, ya sea un esposa/o, pareja o un miembro de la familia. 

¿Quién puede ser víctima de violencia doméstica? 

La violencia doméstica puede sucederle a cualquier persona, independientemente de su género, edad, raza, nivel socioeconómico, educativo o estatus migratorio. 

¿Cuáles son las señales de violencia doméstica? 

El abuso puede manifestarse de muchas maneras, por lo que es importante entender los comportamientos que lo definen. Las señales a continuación son ejemplos de 'señales de alerta' que pueden indicar una relación abusiva. Si reconoce alguna de estas señales y comportamientos en su relación, podría estar experimentando violencia doméstica: 

  • Abuso verbal, como insultos, humillaciones, críticas o degradaciones, ya sea en privado o en público. 
  • Violencia física, incluyendo tirar del cabello, patear, golpear, abofetear o estrangular. 
  • Utilizar el silencio como forma de castigo. 
  • Amenazar o usar violencia para forzar el cumplimiento de sus demandas. 
  • Celos excesivos. 
  • Negarse a confiar en usted o constantes acusaciones de coquetear, engañar e infidelidad. 
  • Comportamiento controlador y posesivo, como dictar con quién puede hablar o qué puede vestir. 
  • Temperamento corto y explosivo. 
  • Actos destructivos, como lanzar objetos, golpear paredes o patear puertas. 
  • Manipulación, coerción o amenazas para participar en actividades sexuales en contra de su voluntad. 
  • Ignorar sus sentimientos y límites en cuanto al sexo. 
  • Aislamiento de su familia y amigos. 
  • Culparle por cualquier cosa que salga mal. 
  • Impedirle buscar ayuda médica o llamar a la policía. 
  • Restringir su capacidad para trabajar y controlar sus finanzas. 
  • Robar dinero o negarle el acceso a cuentas bancarias. 
  • Monitorear sus actividades a través de las redes sociales. 
  • Monitorear constantemente su teléfono, revisar sus mensajes, registro de llamadas y fotos. 
  • Enviar fotos y/o videos explícitos, y exigir reciprocidad. 

Frecuentemente, diversas formas de abuso pueden manifestarse al mismo tiempo. Sin embargo, es crucial reconocer que no todas estas señales necesitan estar presentes para que una situación se considere violencia doméstica. Incluso si uno o dos de estos comportamientos están presentes en su relación, eso puede ser un indicio de que hay abuso. 

Si se ha identificado con alguna de estas señales, no está solo, hay ayuda disponible. La Clínica de Asistencia Legal de Norte Suburban (NSLAC) proporciona servicios legales gratuitos a las víctimas de violencia doméstica que viven en el condado de Cook y el condado de Lake. 

Si tiene preguntas o inquietudes sobre una relación abusiva, comuníquese con NSLAC. El apoyo siempre está disponible. 

Asistencia Legal Gratuita para la Violencia Doméstica 

¿Busca asistencia legal gratuita para la violencia doméstica en español cerca de usted? La Clínica de Asistencia Legal del Norte Suburban (NSLAC) proporciona servicios legales gratuitos a las víctimas de violencia doméstica que viven en el condado de Cook y el condado de Lake, Illinois. Si esta es una emergencia, llame al 911 inmediatamente. 

NSLAC proporciona apoyo y asistencia legal con órdenes de protección (para personas con una relación preexistente), órdenes civiles de no contacto (típicamente usadas en casos de asalto sexual) u órdenes de no contacto por acoso (donde puede no haber una relación romántica o familiar, pero alguien aún teme por su seguridad y bienestar emocional). 

Si usted o alguien que conoce necesita ayuda o apoyo legal, por favor contacte a NSLAC al 847-737-4042 o envíe un correo electrónico a info@nslegalaid.org. NSLAC también proporciona asistencia legal gratuita en temas de vivienda e inmigración. La ayuda está disponible independientemente del estatus migratorio. 

Juntos Podemos Romper el Ciclo 

Es importante que continuemos la conversación sobre la violencia doméstica y las relaciones saludables. Por favor, comparta este blog con sus amigos, familiares y en las redes sociales. A través de la conciencia colectiva, podemos seguir arrojando luz sobre este problema prevalente que afecta a quienes nos rodean. Juntos, podemos romper el silencio y terminar con el ciclo de abuso. 

Recursos adicionales:

  • Línea Nacional de Violencia Doméstica: Encuentre información sobre los diferentes tipos de abuso, así como identificar señales de advertencia. Las líneas están abiertas 24/7. 
  • Love is Respect: Encuentre recursos sobre planificación de seguridad, cómo hablar con alguien que cree que está siendo abusado, y puede obtener apoyo individual de expertos sobre qué hacer. Las líneas están abiertas 24/7. 
  • Clínica de Asistencia Legal de Nort Suburban: Encuentre recursos adicionales, líneas de ayuda y planes de seguridad. 

Sources:  

National Domestic Violence Hotline. “Domestic Violence Statistics.” The Hotline, 2024, www.thehotline.org/stakeholders/domestic-violence-statistics/. 

National Domestic Violence Hotline. “Types of Abuse.” The Hotline, 2020, www.thehotline.org/resources/types-of-abuse/. 

National Domestic Violence Hotline. “Warning Signs of Abuse.” The Hotline, National Domestic Violence Hotline, 2020, www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/domestic-abuse-warning-signs/. 

La información en este blog es solo para fines informativos y no debe interpretarse como asesoramiento legal. No se establece una relación abogado-cliente entre NSLAC y el lector. NSLAC no es responsable por cualquier acción tomada o no tomada basada en este blog. Los lectores deben contactar a un abogado con cualquier pregunta relacionada con el contenido.

Apple Safety Check Features For All

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Working towards our mission to provide access to justice for those most in need, NSLAC believes it is important for all individuals to know the safety measures they can take using their phones. We are so thankful to Apple for providing us with further education on their Apple Safety Check features to share with the public. 

 

If you are experiencing an emergency, please call 911 immediately.

To set up an appointment, please call (847) 737-4042 or click here to schedule a consultation.

Domestic Violence Resources in Lake County (Townships: Benton, Deerfield, Libertyville, Moraine, Newport, Shields, Vernon, Warren, Waukegan, Zion)

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Courthouse 

Lake County Courthouse (847) 377-3600 

18 N County St, Waukegan, IL 60085 

In-House Domestic Violence Advocates: A Safe Place (847) 360-6471, 5th floor, Rm D-100 

Domestic Violence Shelters and Services 

A Safe Place (847) 249-4450 

Shelter, permanent housing, court advocacy, counseling, referrals. 

House of Peace (224) 430-4977 

The House of Peace Shelter, in partnership with Catholic Charities, provides a secure, temporary residence for Latina women and children suffering from domestic violence. 

Lake County Haven 847-680-5408 

Lake County Haven provides shelter and life-changing services so that homeless women and their children can achieve healthy, stable, independent living. 

Noah’s Rest (847) 764-6624 

Temporary shelter for pets of domestic violence survivors, available for transitional periods. 

Childcare 

YWCA Gurnee Child Care Assistance Program (847) 662-4247 

The YWCA administers the IDHS Child Care Assistance Program to help income-eligible parents pay for childcare while they work or go to school. 

Employment 

Catholic Charities Family Self-Sufficiency Program (847) 782-4233 

This program assists low-income, single parents with dependent children to break the cycle of welfare and poverty. Participants receive education, training, employment assistance, and case management for up to five years as they learn to achieve and maintain an independent, self-sufficient lifestyle that allows them to provide for their families’ basic needs. 

Lake County Job Center (847) 377-3450 

The Job Center cultivates and connects our employers and workforce to fuel economic growth and well-being in Lake County. The Job Center serves all members of the public. We have resources for job seekers who may have a barrier to employment or a specialized situation including veterans, youth, seniors, ex-offenders, and individuals with disabilities.
 

Mano a Mano Family Resource Center (847) 201-1521 

Mano a Mano’s Education and Career Coach assists in resume and cover letters, scholarship search, job referrals, transfer credits, and volunteer programs.  

Food/Benefits 

Northern Illinois Food Bank (844) 600-7627 

The Northern Illinois Food Bank’s Outreach Team assists Lake County residents with SNAP (food stamps), Medicaid, and other public benefits programs. They can also link to various food pantries throughout the county. 

Mental Health 

Bradley Counseling Center 847-356-3322   

Bradley Counseling Center provides a range of outpatient therapy and psychological testing services. Locations include Lake Villa and Gurnee.  

Catholic Charities – Lake County Behavioral Health (847) 782-4049   

Provides professional mental health and substance abuse counseling services to families and individuals affected by one or more social problems. Individual and group counseling is offered in a safe and supportive atmosphere.  

Community Youth Network (CYN) Counseling Center 847-548-6000 

CYN Counseling Center is a non-profit comprehensive community-based counseling center that serves children, adolescents, and adults who are struggling with a variety of mental health issues. CYN offers general and specialized counseling and psychotherapy, case management, crisis intervention, and community education. 

Family Service of Lake County 847-432-4981    

We provide counseling, education, and support services to strengthen individuals and families in need to succeed in school, at work, in relationships, and within our community. 

Gurnee Counseling Center 847-336-5621    

Gurnee Counseling Center offers a variety of mental health services including child, adolescent, couples, family, and geriatric counseling along with psychological testing and substance abuse assessment/treatment.  

Josselyn Center 847-441-5600  

Long-term, sustainable mental wellness programs with empathetic, culturally-aware, licensed therapists. For individuals, couples, young people, and families. 

Lake County Behavioral Health – Adults 847-377-8088, Child/Youth 847-377-8110   

Staff provide treatment, training and support services to persons experiencing problems related to emotional and mental illness, or drug and alcohol addiction. Individual and group therapy, case management, housing counseling, psychiatric medication, and emotional/cognitive skill-building methods of treatment are used. 

Youth and Family Counseling 847-367-5991    

Provides caring, confidential, personalized counseling in a private office environment. A staff of licensed psychotherapists works with children, teens, adults of all ages, couples, and families. 

Zacharias Sexual Abuse Center – (847) 872-7799 (24-hr) 

Z-Center provides a place where survivors of sexual assault and abuse can heal, and works to mobilize the community toward action to end sexual violence. 

Housing 

Catholic Charities – Emergency Assistance Program (847) 782-4100 

Provides emergency food, shelter, rental and utility assistance, and crisis management services. Emergency food services help clients to meet short-term nutritional needs. Shelter services include emergency shelter for homeless women, children, and persons with medical needs that cannot be met by local shelters. Homeless prevention services include security deposit, rental and mortgage assistance to prevent homelessness. Other services that help a client stabilize include pharmaceutical assistance, transportation assistance, clothing vouchers, and case management services. 

Community Action Partnership of Lake County (CAP Lake County) (847) 249-4330 

Community Action Partnership of Lake County serves Lake County, Illinois with programs that help local families find self-sufficiency. They accept applications for assistance via telephone, internet, and the use of dropbox service for: rent, mortgage, water/sewer bills, shelter, energy, and the curbside food pantry. 

Community Partners for Affordable Housing (CPAH) (847) 263-7478 

CPAH is a HUD-certified nonprofit organization that develops affordable housing and provides services that empower individuals and families to secure and retain quality housing. 

Great Lakes Credit Union (800) 982-7850 

Looking to make a purchase or in need of rental assistance? GLCU’s expert NCHEC and HUD-Certified counselors can walk you through every step of the process. Let GLCU guide you through the home buying or rental experience, taking advantage of every opportunity to help along the way. Schedule a screening at https://www.glcu.org/schedule-your-screening/ 

PADS Lake County (847) 689-4357 

PADS Lake County is a community-based organization that provides trauma-informed support, resources, and shelter to individuals and families experiencing homelessness and a housing crisis. 

Township 

Illinois Townships 

We strongly advise reaching out to your Illinois township for a variety of assistance programs including emergency financial assistance, food pantries, access to state benefits, and other local resources. You can find your township by visiting https://prairie-research.maps.arcgis.com/apps/webappviewer/index.html?id=16239dfab62f49e48e692bb93b495fd9. 

Utilities 

Community Action Partnership of Lake County (CAP Lake County) 847-249-4330 

Community Action Partnership of Lake County serves Lake County, Illinois with programs that help local families find self-sufficiency. They accept applications for assistance via telephone, internet, and the use of drop box service for: rent, mortgage, water/sewer bills, shelter, energy, and the curbside food pantry. 

Emergency Order of Modification of Parenting Judgement Related to Stay-at-Home Order in Domestic Violence Case

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Highland Park, IL – April 16, 2020 – Rebecca Weininger, Director of Domestic Violence Law Practice at the North Suburban Legal Aid Clinic (the Clinic), successfully obtained an emergency order in a domestic violence action related to Governor J.B. Pritzker’s Stay-at-Home Order (the Order). Weininger argued that one parent’s failure to abide by the Order while exercising parenting time with the couples’ minor child constitutes an emergency that the family court should consider and puts the child at risk, specifically the possible exposure to COVID-19. Disobeying the Order with a minor child violates the Illinois Domestic Violence Act and the parties’ parenting order. The Court agreed, granted the emergency motion, and entered an order requiring both parents to abide by Executive Order No. 8 effective immediately.

Client is the divorced mother of one child. Client believed her son’s life was at risk, as the child’s father was not adhering to the Order. Client came to the Clinic for the first time on April 6, 2020. Judge D. Christopher Lombardo, 19th Judicial Circuit Court at the Lake County Courthouse in Waukegan, IL, heard the case.

“Our client fully entrusted her son’s father to follow the Governor’s Order. When it became clear that her son’s life was in danger, she turned to the Clinic for help,” stated Weininger. “It is critical that each of us does our part to flatten the curve during the COVID-19 pandemic. We appreciate that this ruling will provide the safety and security that our client and her son deserve and makes a statement about the critical importance of the precautions that we have all been asked to take in this fast-evolving health crisis.”

The Clinic is an essential service. Based on public health guidance to limit gatherings due to the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic, the Clinic is no longer seeing clients or guests at the office but is scheduling individual and family phone appointments for intakes, follow-up meetings, and court appointments.

VAWA Will Be On The US Senate Floor This Month

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The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) was signed 25 years ago. The law changed the conversation about domestic violence as millions of Americans took gender-based violence seriously. It is also is credited for a dramatic decrease in the rate of domestic violence in the United States.

In April, the U.S. House of Representatives passed HR 1585, the bipartisan Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act of 2019. Now it is time for the U.S. Senate to vote. They need to hear from you. Please tell them to VOTE YES.

This bill continues the critical programs that have helped reduce domestic violence and sexual assault over the last 25 years, and adds new programs focused on preventing violence, helping children and youth exposed to violence, and doing more to help victims from vulnerable communities impacted by these crimes. Reauthorization is critical especially with a new provision that is aimed at curbing sexual violence by expanding law enforcement’s ability to strip domestic abusers of their guns. This new language is especially important, even if it saves one life.

At the North Suburban Legal Aid Clinic, we provide access to justice to women who live in fear and danger. VAWA gives them crucial legal protections that they deserve. Domestic Violence Awareness Month is just around the corner in October. The timing is right for the U.S. Senate to follow the U.S. House’s lead and reauthorize VAWA with critical enhancements and no rollbacks.