By Keira Cushing | NSLAC Regional Student Board Member

Ever felt like your relationship was off but couldn’t put your finger on why? You’re not alone—that feeling is more common than you think. What many of us don’t realize is that nearly 1 in 3 teens will experience some form of dating abuse before they graduate high school. Teen dating violence is more common than we think, but too often, it goes unnoticed—until it's too late. This February, during Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, let’s shine a light on the hidden signs of abuse and spark a conversation about how to stop it before it starts.  

As teens, we often lack knowledge on the subject of abuse and do not realize what constitutes an unhealthy relationship. It’s so important to know the signs of dating abuse—because, honestly, we’re all figuring out what relationships are supposed to look like right now. Sure, many of us can identify abuse when it is physical or sexual. But other signs are less obvious. Maybe you’ve had a friend who seemed to always be checking in with their partner and suddenly cut off their other friends. Or think of someone whose partner always tells them where they can go, what they can wear, or who they can go out with. Those could be signs that something isn’t right. We teens are especially vulnerable to these situations, as we are navigating complex emotions and learning how to establish our boundaries.  

Recognizing these dangerous behaviors early and learning how to respond can prevent a cycle of violence that might lead to more severe abuse later in life. This February, let's not just passively learn about these signs but actively engage in changing the narrative around them.   

 So, what can we do? Many teens feel isolated or embarrassed when they are in an abusive relationship, leading them to stay silent about their struggles. If you notice the signs in a friend or in your own relationship, don’t just brush it off. Talk to someone you trust, like a parent, teacher, or counselor. By raising awareness, we can help break the stigma surrounding dating violence and encourage our friends and peers to step forward and speak out. Education about boundaries, consent, and self-worth is key. As we learn these crucial aspects of relationships, we can begin to build the knowledge we need to foster respect and trust—elements every relationship should be built on. Ultimately, we must create a culture where abuse is not tolerated. 

Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month is more than just a time to reflect on the problem; it’s a call to action. By raising awareness among all of us, including teens, parents, teachers, and community leaders, and supporting those affected by abuse, we can work together to create a world where all relationships are healthy, safe, and free of violence. This February, and beyond, let’s make a promise to each other—not just to recognize the signs of abuse, but to take a stand against it. We all deserve relationships based on trust, respect, and love. It’s time to help each other build that.